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Emotional Assault by Lisa Kroulik
When most people think of abuse, images of domestic violence come to mind. However, emotional abuse is a form of indirect violence that also deserves recognition. It is difficult to overcome because it is often impossible to identify.
While domestic abuse is tragic, it is impossible to ignore the evidence of it. The impact of emotional abuse, on the other hand, is often invisible. Since others don’t see any physical scars, they have no idea how much the victim is suffering. When the emotionally abused spouse speaks up, people are often dismissive of her pain. This leaves the victim in a constant state of confusion and self-blame.
In this book, author Lisa Kroulik identifies eight common tactics that emotionally abusive people use to control their partners, such as giving the silent treatment or playing the victim. Lisa Kroulik uses examples from her relationship with her former husband to help readers name abusive tactics in their own relationships. As she states in the introduction to this book, knowledge is power. After identifying a trait of emotionally abusive partners, Lisa Kroulik goes on to offer suggestions on how to confront it. She makes it clear that confronting the behavior may not make it stop and that each woman needs to decide for herself if her relationship is worth saving. The second section of Emotional Assault helps the reader assess her current relationship and provides resources should she decide to end it. This book is hopeful and engaging while empowering emotionally abused women to change their lives.
The author offers readers practical advice on what to do in these common situations without giving power to the former partner. She takes a humble, been there and done that approach to everything she shares in this book. Rather than count down the days until their child becomes an adult, readers can learn to detach from the crazy and enjoy life. After all, it is pointless to leave an emotionally abusive relationship only to continue the cycle in post-divorce parenting. Those who are still trying to identify and confront their partner’s hurtful behavior may wish to read Lisa Kroulik’s first book, “Emotional Assault: Recognizing an Abusive Partner’s Bag of Tricks”.
I want to be clear that I do not have an abusive partner… However, I did have a relationship years ago with someone who was abusive (physically and emotionally) and I spent years with an adopted daughter who was as abusive as they come. Actually she still is abusive but we have put an end to that cycle. Some of this book clearly applies to any type of relationship that suffers emotional abuse. I truly wish I would have found this resource while trying to dig out from some of it. It just may have made some of those struggles just a little more manageable. So for any of you that are still struggling – definitely consider this book as a valuable resource!
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