How To Raise and Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims #RaisingAdults

How To Raise An Adult


How to Raise an Adult


In How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research, on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers, and on her own insights as a mother and as a student dean to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society at large. While empathizing with the parental hopes and, especially, fears that lead to overhelping, Lythcott-Haims offers practical alternative strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success.

Relevant to parents of toddlers as well as of twentysomethings-and of special value to parents of teens-this book is a rallying cry for those who wish to ensure that the next generation can take charge of their own lives with competence and confidence.


Julie Lythcott-Haims served as Dean of Freshmen and Undergraduate Advising for over a decade at Stanford University, where she received the Dinkelspiel Award for her contributions to the undergraduate experience. A mother of two teenagers, she has spoken and written widely on the phenomenon of helicopter parenting, and her work has appeared on TEDx talks and in Forbes and the Chicago Tribune. She is pursuing an MFA in Creative Writing at California College of the Arts in San Francisco.



My husband and I have five kids and we both work in education.  I wish there was a road map that we and other parents can follow to raise kids to become successful adults.  This book provides some unique insight into helping children to become successful.  Every parent should read this – rich parents, poor parents, controlling parents, free range parents – all of them.  I feel like we have become a generation of parents who want this bubble of protection around our kids yet we want them to grow up to be responsible and successful adults.  Those don’t necessarily go hand in hand.  Reading this book is the first step to guide you through the process.


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  • Michele

    There is a fine line between being over protective and allowing your child the freedom to grow into him or herself–even though they may encounter problems along the way. I think this book will be a wake up call and all parents should read it.

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